In today's blog, we have something a little different for you. As our Facilitator Training season is starting in September, we thought you would like this inspirational talk from a recent Relationship Mastery Training about how Heart iQ can impact relationships by creating an optimum environment of family and community where intimacy naturally and spontaneously thrives.
What if relationship dysfunction was not just the direct result of two people not being able to find common ground, but had more to do with our western culture of separation, isolation and myth that we need to 'do it on our own'?
Could our irreconcilable differences be healed by simply following the wisdom in this video?
Watch it now to find out and then read on if you are interested in learning how to apply this art to your own personal or professional life at our upcoming Relationship Mastery Training.
If you are passionate about relationships and helping couples to deepen their connection,...
S.T.U.A.R.T. is the Heart IQ™ term used to describe the intelligent, self-managing master system that coordinates all of your defense strategies. It’s job is to filter what you receive from the world and what you give out to the world, all based upon what is deemed safe and unsafe to maintaining the equilibrium of your world. Its protection is both helpful and limiting.
For example, when you’re ready to let others see, hear and feel you more, S.TU.A.R.T. can block your efforts to receive more from others and to express more of you in the world. In childhood, this protection was essential to keep you from feeling too much core unworthiness. Its job was to make sure that your innate worth remained protected and intact as you moved into adulthood. In childhood, you’re exposed to vital experiences that are meant to shape you into who you’re becoming.
These experiences are often delivered with the incompleteness of other people’s wounding. While these...
For many people, it’s easier to access their emotions and feel open when they’re alone.
Sharing your heart and authentically opening up to others is a necessary ingredient for intimacy and healthy relationships, but it often isn’t easy as this requires safety and vulnerability.
Due to our past experiences, we may be conditioned that it’s unsafe to be vulnerable. Maybe we got hurt or were made wrong by others for unveiling our truth. Those occurrences create our shadows and defences and greatly impact our future relationships and experiences.
Daring to be vulnerable can help you digest your fears as you’re received and witnessed by others. In today's blog, I show you how we all need safety in order to come into our hearts.
Vulnerability needs to be witnessed by other(s) and is a critical ingredient in both our horizontal in and horizontal out Directions of Joy.
Remember that you do not need to be...
We all have basic human needs and desires that require other people to meet them. Otherwise, without this necessary exchange with others, we will shut down to life, becoming overtaken by our defence mechanisms in unhealthy ways, and possibly turning into ‘energetic vampires,’ unconsciously taking energy from those around us. Some examples of human needs are being touched, seen, felt, understood, ravished, nurtured, matched, surrendered and relaxed.
In today's blog, we explore this vital ingredient to life. The first video expands on what it means to ask for what you want and to get your needs met.
There is enormous power NOT ONLY in asking for what you want from another, but also in being WITNESSED by others in the asking. Witnessing creates an anchor that changes your body’s cellular memories, which is a key part if we want to create a new sustainable reality. The mind can forget, but the body never does. These next two videos demonstrate...
It always takes two to allow disconnection of intimacy. It’s important to know this. Even in cases of the deepest betrayals or infidelities—those cases where it’s ever so easy to assign a victim and a villain—even in those scenarios, the intimacy has always been lost due to a combination of factors that both partners brought to the table. It’s never completely the fault of one person.
I’ve noticed that one of the primary needs of women in relationships is to have their reality confirmed. Quite often men will listen to a woman’s observations about the partnership, but will refuse to own or confirm what she’s expressed. In many cases, women know the hearts and truth of their men more than the men even do. But it takes a lot of courage for a man to accept uncomfortable feedback and acknowledge where his partner may be right about him. More typically, the man wants to call her crazy for thinking or feeling those things, rather than...
One thing that makes Heart iQ different to many other modalities is that the work is done in a group, where healing is done in connection with others.
Initially, Heart iQ uses group wisdom and the amplified field to support individuals in their awakening process. As people go deeper into the work however, they realise that working on 'themselves' is just the beginning and that a far grander experience awaits them when they are willing to surrender to the collective wisdom that emerges from the group. When this happens, healing isn't just personal, but trans-personal - it becomes a collective portal for change.
Thus Heart iQ isn't just about creating healthy people, but building healthy community.
Many of us crave to be in community yet few healthy examples of functioning communities actually exist. In this blog, we explore community, the importance of being witnessed and how healing with others can be so much faster than healing by yourself.
Accessing joy consistently in your daily life can be challenging. It’s not always easy to see the big picture, the grand design, and to understand there’s divine perfection in it all. I’ve devised a system of processing your moment-to-moment reality that makes it a bit easier. It’s called Heart iQ Tracking.
Heart iQ Tracking provides valuable insight into what’s causing your resistance to joy, what’s getting in the way, and which thoughts and judgments are keeping you from loving what is.
When you track well, you have the key to joy in any moment!
Learn more in the video below.
Although tracking can be used as a way to read energy of others and the room, in this blog, we’ll focus on your personal practice of Heart iQ Tracking. This powerful practice will teach you to pay attention to what is presently moving for you and in you, and distinguish the difference between the content and your relationship to the content.
What if you could heal emotional and psychological trauma by bringing your nervous system into a deep state of rest?
When you get traumatised through neglect or by taking in violating energies, your body-mind stores the undigested energy and memory of the trauma as a contraction of bound energy that is felt as tension in the body.
A chronic state of tension in your nervous system creates several challenges:
In the following video, Christian brings awareness to a man whose life is deeply affected by chronic tension.
What does it take to become an embodied speaker? In the entertaining video below, Christian tells us about his personal journey toward embodied speaking and how his courage and commitment paid off in a big way.
Christian’s story illustrates the vital elements of becoming an embodied speaker: courage, commitment, and PRACTICE.
In this next case study, we journey with Melanie as she meets her worst fear — an unresponsive audience — then takes her own journey, one tweak at a time, toward the key ingredients for her own embodied, powerful communication.
Anger is a controversial emotion that many people say is unhealthy, negative or harmful. In Heart IQ™, we believe that anger is not only extremely healthy when channeled through the heart, but is, in fact, essential for your happiness!
How can this be?
First, we need to dissect the commonly held myth in the personal development world that negative emotions exists. What many call “negative” is really just a judgment of an energy that is either misunderstood or channeled in an unhealthy way. For example, the energy of anger when expressed through a closed heart (meaning that it is not connected to your value and goodness) can be hurtful, poisonous, and damaging to all concerned. It can cause you to lash out and become passive aggressive or manipulative.
Therefore, if anger (or any emotion) is creating undesirable feelings, behaviours, and results in your life, it’s a clear message that there is a part of you in judgment and in conflict with yourself, and thus...