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S.T.U.A.R.T. is the Heart IQ™ term used to describe the intelligent, self-managing master system that coordinates all of your defense strategies. It’s job is to filter what you receive from the world and what you give out to the world, all based upon what is deemed safe and unsafe to maintaining the equilibrium of your world. Its protection is both helpful and limiting.

For example, when you’re ready to let others see, hear and feel you more, S.TU.A.R.T. can block your efforts to receive more f...

For many people, it’s easier to access their emotions and feel open when they’re alone.

Sharing your heart and authentically opening up to others is a necessary ingredient for intimacy and healthy relationships, but it often isn’t easy as this requires safety and vulnerability.

Due to our past experiences, we may be conditioned that it’s unsafe to be vulnerable. Maybe we got hurt or were made wrong by others for unveiling our truth. Those occurrences create our shadows and defences and greatly i...

We all have basic human needs and desires that require other people to meet them. Otherwise, without this necessary exchange with others, we will shut down to life, becoming overtaken by our defence mechanisms in unhealthy ways, and possibly turning into ‘energetic vampires,’ unconsciously taking energy from those around us. Some examples of human needs are being touched, seen, felt, understood, ravished, nurtured, matched, surrendered and relaxed.

In today's blog, we explore this vital ingredi...

It always takes two to allow disconnection of intimacy. It’s important to know this. Even in cases of the deepest betrayals or infidelities—those cases where it’s ever so easy to assign a victim and a villain—even in those scenarios, the intimacy has always been lost due to a combination of factors that both partners brought to the table. It’s never completely the fault of one person.

I’ve noticed that one of the primary needs of women in relationships is to have their reality confirmed. Quite...